Pastor Blair: “So far, I have described the two forms of motion which we believe happens that cause a person to get “stuck”. In our “Live Forward” program, we have created another form of motion to help anybody that is stuck in a habit or a hurt. So instead of just telling them “don’t do that”, we created another form of motion we call the “Jesus Cycle”, and we believe the true motion in your spiritual life begins with believing Jesus’ beliefs about you! Now you don’t have to necessarily believe in yourself, just believe that He believes it. That’s a starting point.
So He believes that you are loved, that you are beautiful, and He definitely believes that you are worth dying for. And if a person starts here as their starting point, then that helps them to create new behavior. New motion happens when you’re able to get traction, instead of a wheel spinning around in the mud. Believing that you are worth dying for gives you traction, and if you start there, your next stop isn’t impaired thinking, but it’s inspired thinking! When I know that I’m worth dying for, I don’t feel like I have to be a people pleaser. I don’t have to numb my pain because God loves me and is with me in my pain.
So now I have this inspired thinking. From there, the church has what’s called “Means of Grace”: reading scripture, prayer, being with community, worship, service…all these are ways that we keep the momentum going. Motion continues because we’re doing the things that have been proven by others to be a part of motion. From there comes the point of choosing Jesus, instead of the hurt cycle and habit cycle which led to doing the easy thing and choosing temptation and feeling anguish. In the Jesus cycle, you choose the hard thing. So the hard thing is you forgive, the hard thing is you don’t take the next drink, the hard thing is calling your friend and saying I need help. When you do the hard thing, you experience your personal Easter; you end with blessing and with the fruitfulness that you were looking for all along. And the more you do this cycle, the easier it is to do it the next time”.
Rosemary: “Start a new cycle.”
Pastor Blair: “It’s a helpful cycle. One thing I’ve found was that it’s hard for a person to jump from one cycle motion to the next cycle motion. I use this phrase “Prayer in HD” (H – help, D- distract) where when you’re in trouble, you pray “Lord help me”. Then pray “Lord distract me”, to keep from repeating the same prayers or words over and over. To go from destructive motion to good motion, there’s this moment of neutrality (perhaps captured better artistically ) – a moment where the geese go from being in the water to being on the land – where they are standing on both, and so this idea where both are present at the exact same time. You’re not on a firm place to stand, but there needs to be this transition.
I think not all motion is good motion, like using the example describing worrying as rocking back and forth hoping that will get you somewhere. It gives you something to do but does it take you anywhere?”
Rosemary: “Also I heard something said the other day “The past is in the past”, which I’d heard years ago from this person, and now again. There is so much shame and contempt going on, that the past is clearly not in the past, which is interesting.”
Pastor Blair: “Let’s look at that and just play around with the idea of motion. Is the past in motion, which is kind of an interesting thought. My undergraduate studies were in religion and philosophy. We dealt with symbols and thoughts…so this idea of motion, the past isn’t past cause it keeps reaching at us, doesn’t it?”
Rosemary: “It does, and if we don’t deal with it, it will come to haunt us again, as the familiar quotation in my last blog read, “He who does not remember the past is condemned to repeat it”.
Pastor Blair: “Would you say the past reaches out with a hand and if we don’t reach back and shake its hand, it will grab us, and pull us down? Would that become an image? If you don’t reach back and shake that hand and receive it, the past is getting you.”
Rosemary: “Yes that’s an excellent image, and receiving the past means acknowledging it and working with it and working through it.”
Pastor Blair: “When I speak to an artist, it inspires me. Our God is a creator and whenever we’re being creative, we’re participating in God’s actions. So the reason I was interested in this conversation is because having heard of you being a creator, whenever I talk to a creative person, the rest of my day I’m looking at colors brighter, I’m looking at topics more. I feel like I’m getting a lot out of this conversation myself. So I appreciate it too.”
Rosemary: “Thank you, and talking with you has been so inspiring for me as well! I look forward to doing this again.”
“Motion” pictured above as a Limited Edition Framed Giclee. View the gallery at www.BegleyArt.com